Hiya fellow grown up gamers!

Ever been so miserable at your current job? Done everything you could to make it better. Different way of thinking about things, not dwelling on it off hours, discussing it with family members and just trying to find a job to replace it?

I'm currently in a situation where they have totally changed my job title but also want me to keep the responsibilities and duties of my other job as well. Not only that but my other co-worker refuses to do the new duties and won't even do anything. But somehow the Boss just doesn't see it, even though when mentioned she says "It'll get handled." Okay it's been 3 months since that statement.

I'm so fed up with everything that I'm seriously contemplating just handing in my 2 weeks notice with no other job in line. I've never done this and it's never been so bad where I have had to do this.

So I guess I'm trying to say is would you ever leave your current job with no other job in the make?

"I'm so fed up with everything that I'm seriously contemplating just handing in my 2 weeks notice with no other job in line. I've never done this and it's never been so bad where I have had to do this.

So I guess I'm trying to say is would you ever leave your current job with no other job in the make?"

That depends on several things, because it's a huge gamble.

First of all, have you tried looking at and applying to other jobs? If not, you definitely should start, it'll make your decision much easier. If you have been, and haven't gotten a job offer yet, it might be this way for awhile (depending on the field you're working in & where you live), and you'll experience similar scenarios even when you're unemployed. Plus, employers feel safer hiring someone who's currently employed and willing to give 2 weeks to their current place, than someone who's "unemployed".

Let's say you do quit, without another job lined up. How long could you afford to live without work? Would you be able to keep a roof over your head, and food on the table? What if you had to take a job making minimum wage, would that be enough to make any potential rent/car payments on time?

Ultimately, I'm not saying I'd never do it. I certainly did it when I was younger and lived at home, but today it would have to be quite a terrible job for my health (physical or mental) for me to consider it. Your current boss is clearly being unfair to you, and I understand that you'd be unhappy (I would too), but if you think you'd be worse off without a job, I would not leave until something else was on the table.

have you tried looking at and applying to other jobs?
^Yep for the last 6 months. I found one but it would have been the same kind of situation, unrealistic workload for one person.

you'll experience similar scenarios even when you're unemployed. Plus, employers feel safer hiring someone who's currently employed and willing to give 2 weeks to their current place, than someone who's "unemployed".
^ I have thought about that, I would tell a new employer that I needed to take some time to think about what I needed from my career. I mean it isn't a lie and most employers would definitely want someone who's willing to  better themselves or take that moment to make sure they are going down the right path. I've been on this career path for 10 years. I've been thinking more and more lately if I can actually see myself doing this until I retire. Honestly I don't have an answer.

would have to be quite a terrible job for my health (physical or mental) for me to consider it.
^Trust me I'm not being dramatic. This job is getting more and more unrealistic. I'm used to working, I actually like being pushed to my limits. But it's been over a year since I've realized that maybe this job is going south. Not only until recently (a week or so) that my Boss will not do the right thing. I've given plenty of chances in the last year for her to make it better. It's gotten worse.

Thanks for reading my post and thank you for taking the time to write down some pretty important points.

You're welcome, I wish you the best of luck with anything you decide.

I think it would be a foolish thing to do without another job lined up, but then again, your happiness and mental state should come first so if you can afford to do it it's not an entirely awful idea!

Keep looking for new jobs. You don't sound entirely satisfied with this career branch in general, so maybe think about different paths you'd like to take as well, rather than just lookiing for things in the same field. In the meantime, is there a higher-up boss you could speak to above the boss who isn't listening? Are trade unions a thing in the US? I know my union would come down very heavily on my employer if I was in this (unacceptable!) situation. Also keep going back to your boss raising this issue. Your other co-worker being awkward is horrible for you, but honestly it's your boss's fault and your boss is fortunate you're not both refusing to do the new tasks. It would be good if you could convince your co-worker to help you out a bit more, and maybe then you could both present to your boss as a united front saying your workload is unfairly heavy.

Good luck with it all! I'm sorry your employer is taking advantage of you like this.

^ I agree I'm not 100% on leaving without another job in line. Unfortunately the state I live in they don't have Union jobs. I've definitely thought about going above my current boss but I'm not sure it's entirely worth it. Once you open that can of worms you're kinda in the red zone.

Since we've started our new tasks we've also moved to another suite and I found out today apparently the one woman who is helping us transition is actually monitoring us. I had a private conversation with her and she told me that basically she's there to report on what's going on and what each of us are doing. Apparently my co-worker has ticked her off as well, because well she told me so.

She basically said just to keep doing what I'm doing and that well this other co-worker has made many mistakes but it only takes the right mistake to make the difference. (So I'm guessing they are going to can her or something)

Thanks for the well wishes!

There are a lot of variables in this, and I have been in this position before as well. I didn’t end up quitting with nothing, but did end up leaving a job that made me very depressed and put me in a very unhealthy mental state, for one that had a super high failure rate. The rate of people that made it past two months in the job I applied for instead was about 1/10... so in the end, it wasn’t really all too different I suppose. Plus it was a pay cut at the time.

The questions I asked myself were -

What bills do I have to pay? —- for me, it was my house payment, all bills, food for myself and pets, and all living expenses. I am the sole supporter of my entire household (two adults, at the time nine pets) so it was a pretty big risk. I should mention this is a union job, but not for the first year.. so it still has all of the same risks as a non union job but with a “we can fire you any time, for any reason imaginable” policy.

Does your town offer easy to get jobs that pay enough to live off of? Though it wouldn’t be ideal, I knew I could apply for a fast food job and probably get hired the same day.. plus a lot of fast food jobs around here pay about $10 plus an hour. Though it’s not a good wage to live off of, around here o could’ve lived off of it.

Do you want to find a temporary job, or a long term job? If you don’t mind bouncing from job to job go for it! I honestly have no problem with that, and was so desperate to get out of the job it didn’t matter to me. Luckily my current career came up at the right time, by some miracle they were actually hiring at that time, and I made it through a rigorous first four months of torture which they called training... I’m now in a place that offers as much (and more) overtime than I could ever ask for, and if I stay the next few years will be making over $25 an hour.  I love my job now and what I do. It has rough days, and there are some awful things that happen.. but being able to do something you know you want to do forever and enjoy makes life in and outside of work much easier.

It’s a super hard choice, but it is worth sticking it out if you can get something you truly want right away. I would say if not, don’t stay, but have another job of a similar pay range in the works. Don’t keep yourself in a job that makes you unhappy if you don’t have to, it’s not good for you.

To answer your question simply, I would not. But, as previously mentioned, it depends on your situation, specifically financial. If you can afford to not work, fine, go for it. But if you have responsibilities and bills that need to get paid and not a ton of money stored away somewhere for a rainy day, I don't think it would be wise to give up your income without another one lined up. I know how it feels to hate your job, but it's probably not worth putting yourself in a bad financial situation. Keep looking for a new job, and the rest is going to work out!

^Thanks for everyone who has responded! I haven't updated in awhile so I thought I would today.. So about 2 weeks ago I had a private meeting with my boss and told her what was going on with my coworker. She told me that just because she doesn't work like you doesn't mean she isn't working hard. I understand that, totally. Not everyone can pick things up quickly or at all. It does take practice. But if you've been at a job for over 3 months don't you think you should be able to handle some of the work by yourself? Of course her reply was that I wasn't being supportive and that I was being "bully" like. That she can only ask each of us to do the "best we can do."  Also since I know the position so well that I should keep on doing my tasks and her tasks as well. This would be the most "team work" thing I can do.

Basically my Boss ended up bullying me. Which in turn made me so upset my emotional state of mind had a somewhat break down.. I talked it over with my husband. Husband talked logic into me.. told me that I should stop going above and beyond. That i'm not the boss or a team lead to stop acting like one. I don't get appreciated enough as it is.

So I've stopped taking responsibility for things at work, I've stopped giving solutions for problems and I have just become a mediocre employee.

I've never been so happy in my life and all I keep telling myself  "Do the best you can do." Also I kind of googled it, I have the "Office Space Syndrome"  which in turn makes me LOL.

Also I'm still searching for a new job everyday.



P.S I also spoke with said coworker about our new responsibilities and found out that she's been sandbagging this whole time. She does know how to do the job but she feels she doesn't need to exert herself.

I UNDERSTAND THIS, and completely feel you on this. I even transferred. Nice little change, but worse, nonetheless. It stinks. But, no, I wouldn't quit my job because I can't afford to, (even though I can't afford just one part time job to begin with, ya dig?) and it keeps me busy.