I'm a little dispirited about it right now. There are various circumstances, but the endpoint is, I'm a college graduate who still can't even drive, and I'm so bad at it that I'm starting to wonder if I'm even capable. There are so many things I have to try to keep my attention on at once. And I know so much of it is muscle memory, which I'm absolutely terrible at. I have to put a lot of focus into staying in my own lane, which is especially hard because I have very little sense of where the outside of the car is, and so my speed ends up wrong. If I focus on getting my speed back up closer to the speed limit, as soon as I look at the speedometer, I start to drift toward the curb. It's things like that. My mom keeps telling me, "You'll get it eventually!" but I'm starting to doubt myself. I've had several hours of experience -- I know, not really that much, but-- I don't even feel like I'm getting any better at it at all.
So, I'm curious if anybody has any success stories of themselves/their sibling/child/etc. who seemed terrible at driving but were able to learn.
I had this problem. Trying to change lanes was a nightmare cause as soon as I checked over my shoulder my car already drifted into another lane. And I never knew how they expect you to focus on the road while also checking your rearview and side view mirrors and speedometer and such. I don't know how long it took me to get the hang of it, but it got better!
I had a fear of driving and it took me three years to learn (this was in my teens). It wasn't until my early 20s that I really got over it and now I don't have any issues. I don't really like driving in big cities, but I really haven't had to do it.
If you live in a town with public transportation, I wouldn't worry so much about it. I know of many folks who don't need a car and either never got their license or let their license lapse. It's not a big deal.
I'm out of high school and never learned how to drive yet. I'm in a situation where it's difficult to learn because I have one person in my family who lives near me who can drive and we hate each other so she won't teach me. My only real option would be to find a driving school and even then they'd have to he one that could pick me up, and there isn't one around here that I know of
You could hire a diving instructor for private lessons, although that might be a bit pricey. They would likely pick you up! Do you have a friend who could teach you? I had a difficult time learning to drive. I was 15 when I started practicing, but didn't get my license until I was 17. So it took me almost 3 years to get my license while (somewhat) actively trying. I failed the written and driving test the first times around. Just keep practicing, don't get discouraged! You will probably have an easier time than I did.
I'm a late bloomer too. You can get your license at 17 here but I got it at 22 (which isn't too late, but I was still on my learners when all my peers could drive without P plates) and I failed my first driving test.
It took me until a few months of frequent driving after my provisional license before I started feeling a bit confident - but I'm still not that fantastic since I'm too cautious around other drivers. It helps to know exactly where you're going, what turns you have to take, and getting into the lane as early as possible instead of stressing about it at the last moment. The rest is just getting into a good rhythm of looking ahead, glancing at the speed every few seconds and looking back ahead. Don't need to worry about the cars behind you - since hopefully they're doing the same thing that you are.
It definitely helps to have a smaller car, with a small turning circle as a starter car since they're easier to maneuvre but obviously most people don't have the luxury of choosing their first car. I'm just saying that with a bigger car, there's definitely an added level of complexity that might lead to making you feel even more like you don't "get it"
I remember being terrified driving when I first started out mostly because I was worried "what if I hit someone, what if etc etc."
I ended up practicing driving at night when there were very few cars on the road with the goal of going to a fast food joint with my dad and back. Food--the best lure ever haha.
Practicing in an empty parking lot was also helpful; I drove around the school parking lot a few times on the weekend when it was empty. You could set up cones and make your own little obstacle/simulate lanes.
Well I did almost get pulled over my first time driving with my parents
I didn't have much trouble overall, but I did have one time where I didn't see a motorcycle as I was about to change lanes. My mom did and yelled at me so I stopped, but I didn't see it at all and without her in the car I might have hit him and it would have been bad. That messed with my confidence for a while. Other than that, I didn't have too much trouble.
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All of my friends have their licenses but my parents thought it wasn't a big deal to not take me to permit classes when everyone else did. And now I don't even have my permit yet. It really bums me out, I'm decent at driving but keeping a constant speed is hard for me.
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I didn't get my driver's license until I was 18, and I only managed to pass by a single point. I learned by driving an automatic, and I'm trying to learn how to drive a manual, but I just can't get it. I don't have a sense of rhythm to try and drive a manual-shift. Learning to drive can be an overwhelmingly stressful experience, but it's definitely a skill you can master. Keep up the practice! You can do it, I believe in you!
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It's been over 40 years and I STILL remember learning how to drive. I had a bizarre problem with turning right for some reason. Turning left - no problem! Twice in the first week my dad was trying to teach me, we ended up in a ditch. Once it was so deep we couldn't get out and had to call a tow truck!
I thought I had it under control but the first time I took the test, You guessed it, way up on the sidewalk and a big old FAIL!
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I didn't drive for the longest time. I was 20 when I got my license and about 23 when I finally started to drive regularly. I'm 26 now and still don't like to drive in really busy areas. You'll get it though.
23 here. Still don't have my license. The worst part about it is having to pay for Uber to go anywhere. It's as if I only make half of what I actually do because I have to pay for rides.
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I feel the same way I've had lessons. I started learning when I was 19 and was just starting to get the hang of it even though I had a long way to go when I became sick and had to drop it for awhile. Now I'm 22 and finally able to try to "re-learn" and I honestly remember nothing.
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I had the same issue where check my blindspots caused my to drift out of my lane, but I quickly got used to it. Before I learned to drive, I also thought that there was a lot to pay attention to, but then you just realize to just focus on the road ahead while occasionally glancing at your mirrors and noticing any changes in your peripheral vision.
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I've recently moved to Japan and I have to drive to work, so I had to go through this initial period of having to relearn how to drive. With driving on the left side of the ride and signal/wipers swapped, I had to get used to it. Now I have to prepare to get my license here next March