Well..hello.

I'm not trying to be cliche or stereotypical, but well..refer to the title. My best friend has recently become kind of, quite popular in school. It started this year, when she got this boyfriend who was already quite popular. It's not like she has neglected me because of this, or anything, but what is kind of annoying is when me and her would be in public together, or in the halls, everyone's always like, "Hey, ________ (insert name there)!" It's not like they don't know me.. I feel kind of uncomfortable when I'm with her, and "popular" people are talking to her aswell because I honestly don't feel...welcome, I guess you could say..

I'm not jealous, but it's just kind of rude and a bit annoying. I'm not really a "loser" in school, but yet I'm not popular at all. I can easily talk and have a conversation with some popular people, and they'll talk back. They just don't really recognize me like they do some other people. I'm not trying to be dramatic/try-hard/etc. about this at all, but I just wondered if anyone has ever had any related feelings..?

Yes, I do realize how cliche this all sounds..

Yup. I don't even talk to her when her friends are around.

When my best friend started trying to be cool she spread rumors about me and I stopped being her friend then she spread even more. That may happen to you sorry, if she's a true friend it won't though

The thing is, I'm wayyyy to trusting.

Oh interesting, I'm in a similar position. I'm cool with a lot of popular people but we're not really friends so much. I mean I could go to parties but I like don't, it's kind of weird, but they do say hi and chat with me so it's fine.

But however, in an even weirder turn of events, my former best friend (we just fell off) seems to think that she is really popular even though... she's not... it's uncomfortable. Like she tries to keep secrets and act like her stuff and top end business, but like nobody really cares... She's always shouting out to the popular people and they just kind of barely acknowledge her, and she's gone as far as to make up stories about their great friendships that don't really... exist... It's strange.

But back to your story, I don't know, maybe as this goes on they'll start to recognize you more? That's at least how it went with me. At first they just kind of ignore you or whatever but as time goes on it gets a bit less, you know, separated. Also if she's a good friend and you're in a strong friendship that should smooth over a bit.

wat is a friends

This happened to my best friend but she won't admit it. >.>

How close are you? How strong is the friendship? What do you personally think will happen? Base it on that! I'm just gonna repeat, but she won't leave you or such if she is a real friend.

jade10145
is she in denial? :$

Lololol. No.
Because my school has 6 junior high classes, With about 20-25 students each.. Our class has 32 which is the biggest. And our junior high lockers are literally down one long hallway. So everyone knows everybody's names. Especially if you're grade 9. Plus I have 4 cousins in different grades. So I guess everyone at my schools "popular", Eh?

I honestly don't know how some people can get so popular. There's this kid who everyone loves, meanwhile he insults everybody and is a good 6 inches shorter than me and maybe 30 pounds lighter, and he insulted me in my face in front of like 15 people. I gave him a good solid kick, and he hasn't bothered me since then. I know that didn't really have much to do with the topic, but I understand how annoying the whole popularity thing can be. Oh well. Who needs their approval, right?

"and he insulted me in my face in front of like 15 people. I gave him a good solid kick, and he hasn't bothered me since then."

*High-fives*
Reminds me of this one guy.. ;P

Even though I'm not a physical guy, I find that's the only way to get people to shut up. They don't listen to the principle or anything. That's where Kung Fu comes in handy.



Honestly he's lucky I only went that far. I still hate that guy.

The joys of growing up. Some people grow apart, while others grow closer. Real friends always find a way to stick together.

Oh, that happened with me too. My best friend drifted away from me at the end of primary school (because we have to take an exam/test in our last year of primary school to determine which type of secondary school we go to, and we were going to end up going to different schools) and so she hung out with the popular people, tried to act all cool about it, even though we had known each other pretty much our whole lives. It hurt a lot, because it's like she just couldn't care much about me anymore, even after everything we went through. It happens, and it hurts, but you get over it eventually. I just realised she really wasn't worth it, in the end, because people change eventually.

I'm the most popular kid at my school
/is home schooled...

what?

but seriously...

I don't get what's so appealing about being popular? I mean in the sense of making fun of others and changing yourself to fit in a crowd or something. You don't see many kind popular kids these days. :/

^ I'm technically one of the kind "popular" kids. It's a long story.
And yes, yes she is, person who said was she in denial.

Some of my friends that went popular either ditched me so I ditched them back, or wanted me to hang out with them and to bad things (drugs, etc.)

I din't want to so I made new friends.

I used to be pretty popular but I didn't hang out with them. I was just nice to everyone.

But high school, I'm a nerd, I made myself a nerd, and I couldn't be happier.

"Nerds", Nerds are cool. I know some pretty 'fly' "nerds".. lolol.
But in all seriousness having friends that do drugs is one thing, If they try and pressure you into it then thats another story, Noot cooool. :b

^I still have a friends since childhood who was into all of that bad stuff. Stealing, drugs, etc. She isn't nearly as bad as her friends. We aren't nearly as close as we used to be, but we still talk and walk to classes occasionally which I am grateful for. I try not to hold those things against people. Of course I would never do it or support it.

My friends are all proletariat scum like me, so this will never happen...

inb4 people come in thinking all popular people are snobby/stuck up/arrogant/unintelligent/undeserving/attractive/happy etc

Confront her gurl. You can do it!!  Honestly I really don't know what to say but do something about it, don't just let it happen. Or you'll be miserable. Good luck!

From what I can tell, all she is doing is expanding her circle of friends, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, but these things happen. If she's nice, I suggest continuing with being her friend. It's not like she's done anything wrong. If it makes you uncomfortable to the point where you don't want to be around her, you can always talk to her. In all honesty, though, I don't advise going through with a conversation of that sort. It wouldn't be fair, because it will either make you appear jealous, or it will seem as if she's doing something wrong, which she's not. You can always spend more time with her after school without the "popular" kids around, also. In any case, you can always make more friends, and still be hers. It sucks, when friends drift apart, but you don't have to let that happen. This is perfectly normal and acceptable, it only becomes bad if she starts treating you badly because of her newgained popularity, but by the sounds of it, she's still your friend. Be confident with yourself, and don't feel like you have to be attached to her, you can always talk to people yourself as well as she can.

Wall of text, yo.

I think the word "popular" has such a negative connotation in a school setting. in the actual sense of the word, I am pretty popular and my friends are, as well. There are very few people in my entire school whom I would feel uncomfortable talking to, and while it's true that some groups are closer than others, almost everyone I'm acquainted with (read:most of my high school) is comfortable talking to others.

Except for this one girl everyone hates. it sounds terrible, but if you knew her and how she acted even though we're seniors in high school, you'd understand.

can sum1 answer my q plz